Many men have little idea of what they like in sex and dismiss the question with a blanket βIt all feels good.β If you think it all feels the same, you can do a lot to improve your sex life by challenging that notion. The problem I think is that men are so busy performing that many havenβt taken the time to determine what pleasures you the most. If you want to find out more about what feels best to you, get your partner to do different things. You can also try touching yourself in different ways during masturbation. Focus on the sensations and see how you feel. Thatβs all there is to it. Doing this over a period of weeks will give you more information about what you like!